My dad caught herpes years before he even met my mom, (he was in the NAVY Pacific Fleet during Nam, lots of guys got it there), my mom has never caught it, there are three of us kids (my mom miscarried between me and my brother, normal miscarriage AKA not herpes related). Obviously they have unprotected sex.
Your fiance is telling you the truth. He is contagious when he is blistered. You may not actually see the blister yourself (I showed my fiance one of mine and he had to get a magnifying glass to see it was a bump with little bumps on it). It sounds like your honey is an honest gent who will tell you "We can't this week honey, want to .....(go to dinner/movie/park/etc)". Some will insist on medication, my dad has never used it (he has had HSV for around 40 years at least), that is up to your hubby if he wants meds. The main thing is to not have sex with his gentalia when he is broken out (massage or his giving you oral are OK). Don't give him oral if his penis is blistered. He is in the clear a day after blister is gone. Also, my mom said my dad still gets a little depressed when he has a breakout (about once every 4 to 6 years now), so your hubby may be down in the dumps when he gets a breakout too. Us females are good for emotional support though (you can get paybacks when you have your period and he has to deal with your emotions) :)
Don't trust condoms, they break (note my sign off below) and if the blister isn't covered by the condom it isn't doing much good.
Hope your wedding day goes great :)
PS. Stress brings on breakouts, so don't be surprised if the "action" part of the honeymoon has to wait a few days :)
Mommy to be in August/July
Be honest and tell him. There is a chance you have exposed him to it, he needs to know that (better to tell him now then when he has a breakout). You are already in trouble (sorry but you are). You are going to have to be punished for your infidelity the rest of your life, why should your husband suffer because you were unfaithful?
Tell him soon also. The longer you wait the messier it will get to tell him. Odds are, if he walks out it will be mostly from the affair, not the disease.
Mommy to be
I am about to marry someone who has herpes, he told me he had it for some years now, are we safe without using comdems,he told i can not get it unless he has an oubreak.
For one you should've never married knowing that you were not ready to be faithfull and love the person that you are with. You shoulf now tell you "husband" that you have contracted the virus and how you contracted it without lying to him. You are already in the whole so don't make it any worse than it already is.
Bride to be
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
OK, that said......
My dad caught herpes years before he even met my mom, (he was in the NAVY Pacific Fleet during Nam, lots of guys got it there), my mom has never caught it, there are three of us kids (my mom miscarried between me and my brother, normal miscarriage AKA not herpes related). Obviously they have unprotected sex.
Your fiance is telling you the truth. He is contagious when he is blistered. You may not actually see the blister yourself (I showed my fiance one of mine and he had to get a magnifying glass to see it was a bump with little bumps on it). It sounds like your honey is an honest gent who will tell you "We can't this week honey, want to .....(go to dinner/movie/park/etc)". Some will insist on medication, my dad has never used it (he has had HSV for around 40 years at least), that is up to your hubby if he wants meds. The main thing is to not have sex with his gentalia when he is broken out (massage or his giving you oral are OK). Don't give him oral if his penis is blistered. He is in the clear a day after blister is gone. Also, my mom said my dad still gets a little depressed when he has a breakout (about once every 4 to 6 years now), so your hubby may be down in the dumps when he gets a breakout too. Us females are good for emotional support though (you can get paybacks when you have your period and he has to deal with your emotions) :)
Don't trust condoms, they break (note my sign off below) and if the blister isn't covered by the condom it isn't doing much good.
Hope your wedding day goes great :)
PS. Stress brings on breakouts, so don't be surprised if the "action" part of the honeymoon has to wait a few days :)
Mommy to be in August/July
Repsonse to unfaithful
Be honest and tell him. There is a chance you have exposed him to it, he needs to know that (better to tell him now then when he has a breakout). You are already in trouble (sorry but you are). You are going to have to be punished for your infidelity the rest of your life, why should your husband suffer because you were unfaithful?
Tell him soon also. The longer you wait the messier it will get to tell him. Odds are, if he walks out it will be mostly from the affair, not the disease.
Mommy to be
herpes2
My husband(20 years) was unfaithful and gave me herpes1 and2 it has ruined my life because of all the lies
Marrying someone with herpes
I am about to marry someone who has herpes, he told me he had it for some years now, are we safe without using comdems,he told i can not get it unless he has an oubreak.
Truthfull
For one you should've never married knowing that you were not ready to be faithfull and love the person that you are with. You shoulf now tell you "husband" that you have contracted the virus and how you contracted it without lying to him. You are already in the whole so don't make it any worse than it already is.
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