Is it safe to have sex with someone who has Herpes?
Hello I met a nice woman we been dating for a year I asked her to make love to me that’s when she told me she had Herpes but it was ok to have sex. I need to know I MEEN REALY NEED TO KNOW if it is SAFE to have sex with her. Even if I used a condom will the touching of skin around the penis to the vagina and getting vagina fluids on my skin could I catch Herpes? Please, Please tell me the safest way to not catch herpes I don’t want anything to stay with me for life but family and money.
Thank you Daniel
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Hello, your story sounds a
Hello, your story sounds a lot like mine. I see you posted this almost a month ago. So I am not sure if you will even get my response. I am a lesbian and I had sex with a woman and 2 weeks later she told me she has herpes. She also told me that she has never spread it to anyone and that she was with her ex for 3yrs and her ex never got it. I am trying to be as understanding as possible but its hard not to have major concern for myself. I mean I feel bad for her because she didn't ask for the disease..she just trusted the wrong person and is now stuck with this for the rest of her life. I love so much about her and would really hate to let this stupid disease come between what we share. I feel like I have overdosed on information about herpes. Some say it can't spread between outbreaks and some say you can. She has the virus on her butt and she says she breaks out like once a year. (I am not sure I believe that) She told me she hadn't had an outbreak in over a year. (she has had the disease for 7 yrs) However she texted me this morning and told me she had some irritation. We have a great sex life..and she says she can just please me when she is having an outbreak. But I know even with her only pleasing me I will still be afraid that I will experience that 1 in million case that contracts it in some odd way. I dont know what to do and would love to speak with someone in a similar situation as myself. I hope that your test results came back ok. and good luck in everything.
Could I have caught it off
Could I have caught it off him and had it for this long and not know it?
My husband just told me he
My husband just told me he has Herpes and had it for a long time before he and i got together, that about 5 yrs. He said he got it from his Ex. He told me a couple of days ago over the phone. He seemed to think it's a joke. I was shocked, hurt and upset. He had no right to keep this from me.
How is it possible that
How is it possible that someone who contracted genital HSV1 herpes from their partner, did not catch it orally, as well?
If someone contracts HSV-1
If someone contracts HSV-1 Genitally from their partner after having intercourse, how is it possible that the person did not also contract HSV-1 orally at the same time when kissing took place, as well?
Sorry to be the bringer of
Sorry to be the bringer of bad news, same scenario applies to me, got checked for the little bumps. They will not grow in size, and will become nothing more, and the doctor cannot get a culture off of them, but you will be asked to pee in a cup. My test results came back positive. Those little bumps will go away with Valtrex. Its a prescription that you will have to take for 10 days. I'm sorry again, I know hearing this news sucks, your heart feels like it fell through your body and hit the bottom of your feet, and your chest feels heavy. Just look at the positives and be glad it isn't anything else.
i have had this for almost 20
i have had this for almost 20 yrs. if you know that you didnt have sympoms then the chances are that it will be ok but its not garanteed.
Respect yourself enough to not get active with some one untill you feel that you fully trust them and discuss the issue with them so that they are in full possesion of the fact first and never have sex while you are active with it. I never let my partner near me untill i know i am compleatly clear. Its an unwritten rule and thats that. i can have up to 7-8 outbreaks ayear!!!!! Apart from that we enjoy a very active sex life and have the most wonderful relationship
good luck..xx
I WOULD WORRY ABOUT IT. I
I WOULD WORRY ABOUT IT. I contracted herpes from a guy about a year ago, we used a condom properly & it did not break. He has never had any symptoms (that he is aware of) and is still living in denial and refuses to get a blood test. I wasn't with anyone else for quite some time so I contracted the virus from him.
Many clinics do not do an HSV1/HSV2 blood test unless it is specifically requested by the patient. So if you go in and say "I want to be tested for STD's/STI's" they will only test for HIV/AIDS, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia ect. Herpes is not a life threatening disease and therefore not an immediate threat. Pharmacutical companies make plenty of money off people who contract this life long virus.
[u]Herpes is spread by skin to skin contact.[/u] Period. It's not an exchange of fluids, it is skin to skin contact with someone who is infected. You can get infected even if the person is not having an outbreak. Search herpes; viral shedding for more info
Also the spread of HSV2 showing up orally is on the rise.
Condoms do not claim to prevent the spread of STD's/STI's they claim only to [b]reduce the risk[/b] of infection. A condom only covers so much skin...
Do you know how severe the
Do you know how severe the risks are for lesbians to contract the disease? I have recently been dating this woman who I think is amazing, I feel as if i can spend the rest of my life with her. She told me she had herpes a few days ago, and she contracted the disease from an ex-girlfriend 3 years ago- whom she was dating for about 4 years. Inevitable the disease lead to their separation. I had unprotected sex with her recently after little research about the disease, she attempted to tell me as much information as she could but she said she has never spread the disease yet, luckily. We had sex about 24-hours ago and now I choose to freak out. I took a vigorous shower about 8 hours after we had sex, and I've been checking myself constantly. I am very nervous- I spoke to her about my concerns and she has been more than helpful answering all my questions but I am looking for another person’s opinion/advice. I have not seem to have any symptoms yet, but my private area (v) has been feeling hot- not a burning sensation just hot- I think it may be because I have paying a great deal of attention to it. I also see extremely small pore size bumps, which may or may not have been there before; I am not even sure. I have a tendency of being a bit of a hypochondriac but I am still concerned if I have something. How soon do you start seeing symptoms and how early can I get tested? I made a appointment for tomorrow which would be about 3 days after I had sex with her- is that too early? Any information would be great, please help.
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