Swinging and Herpes
I'm 36 and recently diagnosed with HSV. I apparently don't have it bad compared to a lot of people, but I'm sure I'm going to need to make some changes, and I wanted to get some advice.
You see, I've been, and have enjoyed being, very sexual over the last few years. While I enjoy being in long term relationships, when I am not in one, I like to explore my sexuality with other partners. Most of what i read in on the web about living with herpes has to do with how to find 'the right person for you'. It's about finding a marriage partner, or waiting for months to have sex. I'm not against that, but I'm not really looking for it, and in the meanwhile, I like to have sex a lot, and I like people who are as open with their sexuality as I am.
I enjoy going to swinger clubs, I like meeting women for short term or casual relationships, and I like to have threesomes and group sex. Now that I know i have Herpes, I want to do this without spreading the disease. I have always used condoms for penetrative sex, unless I'm in a monogamous relationship. I'm guessing i got it from oral sex or from a monogamous and asymptomatic partner.
My question is: IS there anyone on here who still enjoys sleeping around, and does so safely? How has herpes affected you in terms of casual sex or swinging or bdsm? I'd like to continue playing, but i want to do so responsibly, and I am willing to make some changes if I must, I just don't want to give up this lifestyle, I love sexual expression.
Any comments or input are welcome.